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Work Place Madness

April 22, 2008

I got an e-mail from a dear friend the other day, and it went like this…. (I have changed a few things and names to protect the innocent from retaliation by the insane!).

“Pray for me because they got me so confused on this job, I don’t know what to do. One being this”new rule”, don’t assist or offer to do anything if its not your job”. Today the IT person came and fixed the color copier, the office manager asked, “if I sent out an e-mail to inform everyone that the copier had been repaired?” I said no, because she had asked Mrs. X to call Mr. Z the copier repair man to handle all issues with the copy machine. Mr. Z said the copy machine needed a cord, Mrs. X ordered the cord. I told the office manager that since she asked Mrs. X to handle the copy machine issues, I assumed Mrs. X would also send out the e-mail. My thing is I am told by the office manager to not over step my duties. My office manager doesn’t seem to know what she wants and with this “new rule” I only do what I am asked. There is a new problem with this though, since my office manager was so used to me being “proactive” as she would put it. When I don’t do something that normally I would have done in the past, (even though it wasn’t my job), I now leave it alone which is in accordance with the “new rule”. My office manager accuses me of being lazy or not being a team player. When I do take the initiative to do something than her response is Mrs. B, “that is an Office Manager job.” So I don’t know what in the world to do?”

Well I had a few words of advise for her and I want to share it with the rest of the world if that is alright…

In situations such as these, the trick is in how you respond or a better word is how you act and that is DON’T! As in…DON’T REACT! If she tells you to do it one way today, then today do it that way. If she tells you to do it one way tomorrow, than that is what you should do. Don’t get smart, don’t get an attitude, just do your job, and make sure you don’t personalize ANYTHING. Comedian Marty Daniels said it best with his famous quote, “Hurt people hurt people”. That is the general rule, Look at it like that, if she is making your life miserable and she seems unstable and unable to make up her mind, I can almost guarantee you she is hurting and miserable herself. She is unable to communicate this with others in the workplace environment, so on a subconscious level she strikes out so that other people can feel like she does. She does this, because it is uncomfortable to be the pink elephant in the room. She doesn’t want to be the only one with such visible emotional scars, which show up as social maladjustment, inability to have stable relationships in a working environment, irritability, being wishy washy etc. Part of an old saying goes, “misery loves company” but that is only half right. The more correct saying is “Humans love company”. She actually needs more company than most for reassurance, she needs for people to interact with her. This lets her know that she is ok, but she is not, because she is abusive. If this is a normal occurrence in your office then this office manager, is probably one that people try to avoid at all costs. Hence her “new rule”, on a subconscious level, she is creating workplace conflicts so that she can step in and fix things. This shows she has low self esteem. Some people actually have a need to feel needed, or to feel important. This is because somewhere along the way, they did not get validation, either from parents or other positive role models. When people like your office manager wake up in the morning, she probably takes 2 hours to get ready, she is probably constantly checking and rechecking every aspect of her appearance. She is looking for approval, she will force it out of people if that is what it takes. She is putting herself in a position of power that makes her unapproachable, sadly she does not see this. Instead of people having respect for her as a person, they instead have respect for her title only. She sits high and looks low, and because she is not on the level with the rest of the world she does not see, (as I said before), that people are going out of their way to avoid her. These concepts are taken straight from the bible, and if you read Psalms Chapter 1you can gain a little understanding… It says: “Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful” Another translation of the word “Blessed” at the beginning of this scripture is “Happy” so ask yourself, “Why is she unhappy?” Only God knows, however she certainly is sitting in the seat of the scornful“. Psalms 1 declares that a man is “Blessed/Happy” , if he doesn’t do these things. Another area the bible can help in, is understanding her seeming inability to make up her mind. One thing one day, something else the next. The bible says: “A double minded man is unstable in all his ways” This is not only true for your walk with God, but in every area of your life. If you are unable to make up your mind on simple things than you will have constant instability. This woman needs prayer, she is hurting and miserable. Ok that’s the psycho babble stuff, Now for the part that may be a little hard for you to swallow. Ms. B, in this situation, you must allow God to close your natural eyes, and open your spiritual ones. When this occurs you will become your office manager’s intercessor, and not her critic. When I say that Ms. B I am not trying to be harsh, I am simply trying to steer you away from some of the mistakes that I have made in the past. I did this and became bitter, bitterness will consumer you. I quit my job and hated my supervisor’s with a passion I talked about them endlessly for years. I actually had to be delivered, from the hurt and insecurity that had been created in my mind from me falling into a trap that was set by the enemy. So take this advise please! Being critical of those in leadership can hurt your job performance, because it makes it difficult for you to take them seriously. Being critical of your boss can make you slow to complete tasks, and lead you on a quick road to insubordination. For Christians this is particularly dangerous, because it can lead to walking in the spirit of offense. This spirit of offense, is a spirit which attaches itself to you in situations like these. This spirit will give you thoughts to entertain, that will magnify a microscopic situation making it appear larger than life, as you entertain these thoughts it becomes a habit. This spirit then can follow you to church, whatever habits you practice, no matter where that may be, can become a permanent part of your personality landscape. You will soon find yourself becoming offended by what people in the church say, and even commenting back to them, with out of character remarks. These events will Make you wonder to yourself, “Wow where did that come from?” Soon you will find yourself becoming critical of church leadership, and becoming part of the gossip clicks at the church. The most detrimental effect of this is, you can become so defiant, that you begin to backslide in your Christian walk, and begin disobeying the highest Boss of all… God! When you find yourself, defying him, questioning him, and being critical of his works then this spirit has completed it’s assignment. So please see this for what it is. Your boss is a poor soul who is more in need than you actually are. Why do I say that? I say that because, you were able to identify these problems. You saw how the “new rule” brought about confusion and disharmony in the workplace and apparently this person could not. That sounds like you pretty much have it together. Ms. B, this clearly is a trap set by Satan, his hoof prints are all over this. Pray for your office manager and forget about her silly ways, because that is what they are silly. The devil wants you to lower your productivity, by wasting valuable time, analyzing her faults, and keeping you from getting a possible promotion, or any of the things God has for you. Practice being a duck, they are God’s example of what you can do when it rains, and that is just let it roll right off of you. He wants you to know he is the same God that made a duck waterproof, how hard can it be for him to make you resistant to this office foolishness. No matter how many bullets of trickery the devil fires at you, you can always stand ready. Show him and remind him, that you have all the weapons and all he has is just a bag of tricks. Show you have on your armor! Declare to him, “Satan no weapon that is formed against me shall prosper! Ms. B, he is forming a weapon, but it shall not prosper. Ms. B, set the tone for your workplace, Declare how things will be before you even leave home. The bible says in Proverbs 18:21 “death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof”. When you leave the workplace, the demons can do whatever they want, but for the 8 or however many hours you are at work, they must either behave or flee. You spoke it and you are standing on the word, which is sharper than any two edged sword. The battle is notl your Ms. B it is the lords. so take the boxing gloves off, relax and have a blessed day!

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I Beleive in giving credit where it is due, so I would like to take this time to point out that the quote:

“Hurt people hurt people” originated from comdedian Marty Daniels who has a website run by his wife and one for himself, go by and check him out.

Wife’s website

Marty Daniels

If misery loves company, misery has company enough” Is the original quote byHenry David Thoreau

this appears to be the origin of the “Misery loves company” quote. Literary historians out there, correct me if I am wrong.


2 Comments leave one →
  1. trinadaniels permalink
    April 24, 2008 6:38pm

    Great blog post filled with great words of advice. It sure is hard to remember how much misery loves company.

    Thanks so much for the links and for giving Marty credit for his words “hurt people, hurt people”!

    Much appreciated!
    ~Trina Daniels

  2. April 24, 2008 6:38pm

    No way I should be thanking you both!! Yall are such wonderful people I love your blog and your husband is hilarious! Without his famous quote, we would never realize just how true that is. So thanks again and God bless you guys!

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