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The Decline Of The American “Housewife”

October 26, 2009

the-real-housewives-of-atlantaSome Ner do Well would love to start this post off with the coy little hook….

“It all started innocently enough with a little TV series called Desperate Housewives TM.  and then reality TV decided to throw in their two cents worth,  and now  TV in America hasn’t been the same since.”  Well I beg to differ,  It started long before then with a little series called Married with children.   You remember the one that had the male lounge singer crooning in the background to circus theme music to the somewhat righteous sounding lyrics that were in polar opposition to the moral standards (or lack thereof ) on the show.
Love and Marriage, Love and Marriage,
Go together like a horse and carriage,
This I tell ya brother, you can’t have one without the other.

Love and Marriage, Love and Marriage,
It’s an institute you can’t disparage,
Ask the local gentry, and they will say is element’ry.

Try, try, try to separate them, it’s an illusion.
Try, try, try and you will only come to this conclusion.

Love and Marriage, Love and Marriage,
Go together like a horse and carriage,
Dad was told by mother you can’t have one, you can’t have none,
You can’t have one without the other.

The show featured Al the husband who saw his wife as a mattress with a hole in it at times, and a simple chore to be dealt with by going to work and bringing home the bacon,  which she promptly was shown spending on her ridiculous beehive hair or stupid hooker wardrobe.   Peggy the wife/housewife barely had time to properly raise her kids who made sure to be the best at being the worst kids in America.  Their daughter was pretty much a slut and both parents knew it, and seemed to think it was funny because she was dumb and blond.  Their son was full of untapped potential which suited them just fine, they had no plans on pulling his potential out of him as they lacked basic education themselves.  This show stayed on the air for years because it was supposedly funny,  Al with his bathroom humor, and his hand down the front of his pants seemed to be the formula that worked for over a decade. The shows writers and producers went out of their way to do a hatchet job on every thing that represented anything that was wholesome and good about the American family.  Even sitting around the dinner table became a punch line.  Years later along comes Desperate Housewives.  Now I know some of you are thinking, ” what about the soaps  they didn’t exactly help out with things as far as family and relationships go?”  As a matter of fact,  they threw gas on the fire of some marriages that were going up in flames.   Some women got so caught up in the Guiding Light that they actually needed therapy when they thought Reba had died,  ( I guess that was her name) hey I’m not a fan,  I just remember hearing my Aunts talk about it and laughing when I realized these weren’t real people.  Soooo Anyway  Desperate Housewives and the garden tools of Wisteria lane (I didn’t want to say Hoes),   suddenly became more popular than sleeping, eating, and breathing in some households.   Reality TV executives felt they could do one better by finding real women, with real problems instead of these fake ladies with all of this drama and the fake lines.    So along come the silly Housewife reality series.  Drumroll please…..

Here they are folks in no particular order (like that matters)

The Real Housewives of Orange County

The Real Housewives of New Jersey

The Real Housewives of Atlanta

The Real Housewives of  New York City

Before I sat down  to write this critique, I thought long and hard about what I would say,  and it didn’t take long because, I had a mountain of anecdotes and reams of video to glean from.   It was all so embarrassing,  these women all seemed to start out innocent and some even had a platform of sorts,  kinda (I guess).  I don’t know what the heck they were hawking, some where selling clothing lines,  some were out there talking about domestic violence,  Ne Ne from Atlanta was even featured at a Conference at a Mega church (whom the pastor of  needs to be fired immediately).   I can’t imagine what a pastor could have allowed that trouble maker to tell his sheep that he couldn’t tell  them himself.   I saw  some supposedly  high class,  high society, women fighting in classy restaurants,  flipping tables,  pulling weave,  yelling in public,  dating married men in front of their children (behind their back is no better either).    This left me asking myself.  ” Is this what we have turned into?”  “Are we so desperate to be entertained that we will look at this vomit”,  and apparently it has enough of an audience because it just keeps coming back.  I saw the most non-singinest least talented woman in the world take 3rd place in the I-tunes universe with the silliest song on the planet….”Don’t be tardy for the party  (blech).  Without the publicity of the show this one hit wonder would have been a No Hit Ever!  I did my research I kept a vomit bag handy as I watched the DVR’d episodes of public humiliation to the Nth degree.  These women will have to ask a judge for an injunction to have these episodes sealed till the end of time so their grandchildren won’t suffer undue humiliation,  in the event these women decide to  come out of their stupidity comas and stop filming.  I noticed that one person appeared and disappeared and that was a lady from last season in Atlanta’s housewives,  she was shown going to church a lot.  She must have seen herself in contrast to her appearance in church and was pricked by the Holy Spirit to make a choice of whom she would serve,  God or Mammon,  ( at least I hope that is what happened).    I only really watched the last few episodes and the reunion and I DVR’d the last few of this season and a few of the other housewive shows.  was enough for me to write a critique/post on what I see as a poison going into the homes of many ready to take down many a marriage.  If you need to lose weight watch this stuff,   Instant Bulimia,  your food wont’ stay down!!!!!   Man and Woman of God Guard your heart and mind don’t let this mess into your house and more importantly your marriage!

By the way as far as these shows being so Real,  check out the credits on some of them and notice how you will see a Story editor,  whenever you see that,  you can pretty much guarantee the drama is scripted, and what you see is a bunch of mess, but the damage spiritually and mentally are the same.  Turn the one eyed demon off .   The TV has done enough damage,  don’t let that stupid little box come between you and God and you and your spouse and family.

Peace, Agape


6 Comments leave one →
  1. Ken Kendall permalink
    October 26, 2009 6:38pm

    You are so right. If you depend on TV for any direction or hope of the family, you will be led far from truth.

    I write a blog about marriage and how men can better love their wives. I hope you will check it out when you have a chance.


    • October 26, 2009 6:38pm

      Thanks for stopping by Ken and I certainly will pay your blog a visit to read your pearls of wisdom…

  2. October 26, 2009 6:38pm

    No, unfortunately the church going housewife (who attended and was shown on camera tithing 150K to eddie longs church, for what its worth) was not renewed for the contract because she didn’t bring enough drama. So maybe the Lord told her not to get in the middle of their petty arguments, but she didn’t have a choice about appearing the next season.

  3. joejoe_no1 permalink
    December 5, 2009 6:38pm

    She should have actually stayed on the show to show the morality of living a Christian life. But the world and Bravo don’t want to watch that. She was a beacon of light and would never allow the rocks to cry out. She was good people and knew her God. I really wanted them to keep her on the show. I think her presence stopped the show from becoming the crazy fiasco it became this year. But in the end times people will see the good as bad (this lady was an example) and the bad as good (gay marriage and rich women fighting in the street, buying their kids Audis while lowering expectations for them.) This world is getting rough and we are still not there yet.

    • December 13, 2009 6:38am

      And this is so true JoeJoe but by staying on the show, Bravo would have found a way through editing to bring Glory to their producer Satan. This isn’t true reality, just check the credits as they roll at the end. They have a story editor, if this show is being taped as things naturally happened then why a story editor. These chicks where having lines written in to liven up and cheapen up their image to jack up ratings and at the same time torpedo their own self worth (unbeknownst to them of course). This lady figured that out and refused to play ball if she had gone another season, the body of Christ would have taken a blow right along with her, because she would have agreed to lower her standards to get a cheap thrill of standing in front of the camera and supposedly getting some face time for her pastor and church all the while Bravo is sullying his already blacker than pavement image by throwing him under the bus. did you not see the oh so subtle (yah right) camera zoom in on her gazillion dollar tithe check, wasn’t it amazing how her pastor Eddie Wrong met with her right away, barely looking at her at one point grilling and cheesing in the camera. Holding her hands and gazing at her in her eyes at another point like he was Jesus, acting for all the world like a straight up Gatored pimp. All he was missing was his hat, cane, and cadillac. It seemed almost like the pastor was more worried about his image than what she was trying to accomplish. Pssssssssh (deflated ballooooon sound imagine balloon head floating away) okay enough about that poor man. I saw a clear cut case of pastor worship and Bravo just didn’t have someone blown away enough to exploit it. Why? Because of God almighty!!!!!! Can I get an Amen chuch!!! Yep I left the R out. Her husband I suppose smelled a rat, and I am just guessing but after his career didn’t turn out like he wanted and they had to start down sizing and those big ol tithing checks was flying out of their account. Brotha man stepped up and said Hold up sista. I’m the man in this house and we gots to be stepping up outta there. I think he smelled exploitation. The guy was a pro athlete, probably courted by companies since he was two. He could smell game a mile away. That’s just my guess so Bravo said later for that. And God said yah later now get to stepping and leave my chillin alone! haha

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